Family Dinner Questions

by Christina on October 7, 2016

We are really trying to have family dinners but it’s hard… toddler demands, crying infant, distracted post-work mom and dad.

But… a nightly family dinner with all of us sitting around the table having good food and conversation is our goal. Which is why I loved reading this article about how this family stays connected by asking the same three questions every night at dinner:


1) How were you BRAVE today?

2) How were you KIND today?

3) How did you FAIL today?

My 2 year old might be too young to answer these but at least my husband and I can start the tradition. We might add a bonus question too, such as:

  • What did you LEARN today?
  • How did you HELP someone today?
  • What made you LAUGH today?

What are some other good ones to add to the list?

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Chris October 7, 2016 at 7:54 pm

I noticed Kim and Sujay ask at family dinners, “what went really well for you today? (roses) And what didn’t go so well? (thorns)”
The six questions you have in your post are terrific. Kim and Sujay’s are great, too.
Perhaps one way to add a little spark to the game is to put all the questions on paper slips, put them in a jar, and then family members take it in turns to pick one out and answer the question.


Christina October 7, 2016 at 8:50 pm

Those are great and love the idea of putting the questions in a jar at the family dinner table!


Tracy October 8, 2016 at 6:34 pm

Hi, Like your list…. thought I would tell you about Naikon. It is a form of Morita therapy. There are 3 questions…..How was I supported by others by today? ….How did I support others today? ….and last,… How did I cause discomfort or trouble for others today?…These three questions support gratitude and also, take the attention off of ourselves and put our questioning outward instead of always inward….Studies show that people who center their attention on their own emotions, troubles or aches and pain are more apt apt be unstable. One of the leaders in this work is the TODO Institute in the U.S….. Stay well and I hope this finds you well!!!


Christina October 10, 2016 at 1:30 pm

Hi Tracy — I really like your questions and taking the questions outwards. Thank you for sharing!


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